Funerals

 

A funeral is a service to mark the end of a person’s life here on earth.

It is a time when family and friends can come together to express grief, give thanks for the life lived and commend the person into God’s keeping.

 

Some people find planning the funeral with family and friends helps in their grieving. Perhaps you already know something of what your loved one wanted. You may even have planned the service together some time ago.

 

There is more information about planning a funeral service on the Church of England Website http://www.churchofengland.org/weddings-baptisms-funerals/funerals.aspx

 

After the loss of a loved one, your Funeral Director will normally contact the Rector about the date and time of the service. The Rector will then arrange a meeting prior to the funeral service to discuss all aspects of it.

 

Some deaths will be especially traumatic, distressing or unexpected. The Church has special funerals for children, or after sudden or violent deaths, including suicide.

 

 

 

 

The Funeral Service

 

The service will follow a clear plan. The focus moves from earth to heaven as the service moves from greeting the mourners, to remembering the one who has died all the while asking for God’s comfort and the committing of your loved one into God’s care.

 

Traditionally the minister meets the coffin at the door and leads it and the mourners in. The minister will say some reassuring words from the Bible.

 

After the welcome and first prayer, there may be a hymn or a tribute to the person who has passed away. This can be done by family and friends or the minister.

 

The Bible readings focus on God’s care and the hope of eternal life. The sermon speaks of the Christian hope of life beyond death and relates it to your loved one.

 

The funeral prayers recall the promise of the resurrection. They ask for God’s presence with those who mourn and give thanks for your loved one’s life. The prayers normally end with the Lord’s Prayer.

 

The minister says a prayer to commend the person to God’s love and mercy. Then the body is ‘committed’ for burial or cremation.

 

The committal prayer might be said in church, or at the graveside, or in a crematorium as the curtains close around the coffin. It will be a very emotional time, a clear ‘Goodbye’ to your loved one for this life.

 

 

 

After the Service

In many cases, arranging a funeral keeps people so busy that they don’t feel their loss fully until afterwards. Grieving is natural and important, and it may take a long time. Many people find that others who have lost a loved one can offer valuable comfort and support.

 

Bereavement support networks, such as Cruse, can be very helpful. There are also special organisations for people who are bereaved young or who have lost a child or unborn child, or who are bereaved by suicide or violence.

 

 

 

 

St Cuthbert’s Annual Commemoration Service

At St Cuthbert’s we hold an annual memorial service on the Sunday nearest to All Saints’ Day normally at the end of October /beginning of November.

 

All are welcome to attend whether you have lost a loved one recently or many years ago.

See the Church Calendar for further details.

 

 

 

 

 

St Cuthbert’s Graveyard

St Cuthbert’s graveyard is a very old graveyard and if you have a family grave it may still possible for further burials. There is limited space available in the Garden of Remembrance for the burial of ashes of those who live in the Parish or are on the Church Electoral Roll.

 

 

 

Book of Remembrance

 

There is a Book of Remembrance in Church.

 

 

 

 

 

 

All are welcome to have the name of a loved one entered in the Book.

Forms are available at the back of Church or by contacting the Church Office

 

 

 

 

Acknowledgement. Some material on this page is adapted from the Church of England website